May32012

A marriage license is essentially a contract between two people, which grant them all kinds of fun (and maybe not so fun) privileges within the law. The vows are the terms of the contract, but instead of focusing entirely on what the other person will do and what you will get out of it, the vows you write are promises of the things that you will do for them, without demands. It’s very selfless and beautiful.

I don't actually know what brought this on or what made me realize it I just realized it all of a sudden not sure what to do with it now 

February232012

If I want to say all the things I’m thinking and I don’t actually say them, because I think it will make the relationship awkward, does that make me strong or does that make me weak? Am I the better person for denying myself these simple truths in order to spare the other person’s awkwardness, should they not feel the same? Or am I just being a coward?

December152011
kell887: izzieweasley: I haven’t seen any pictures of this moment on my dash yet and it made me kind of sad. I thought it was a beautiful moment. I feel like everyone always forgets what Christmas is REALLY REALLY REALLY about. Lately on TV, when people talk about what Christmas is all about, they say its about giving, and yes, we should focus on giving, but I hope I never forget WHY we are giving. I give because it is what He would want me to do and in remembrance of all he gave for me. He gave His life so that I could repent and have my sins washed away so that one day I could return to Him and my Heavenly Father. I love that Rory read the Christmas story out of the Bible. Jesus is the reason we have Christmas and that is something that is far too easily forgotten. I was happy to see that they read it too but even more glad that they didn’t, I didn’t notice anyway, try and shove Jesus down their viewers throats. It was tastefully done and I rather enjoyed it.  I agree with Kelley that it was rather tastefully done…but I don’t think the episode as a whole was. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the 1960s talk to the tv thing, but overall it seemed to ignore who the characters were on a normal basis. Like, Rachel is high-maintenance, but to the point where she’s begging for super expensive gifts from her unemployed boyfriend? And then that she, a Jew, was moved by Rory’s Christmas story to sell her earrings and give to Salvation Army? Actually, Salvation Army bugged me more than anything because Glee is a very LGBT-positive show (or tries to be) and Salvation Army is anything but. So, idk, I have mixed feelings about the episode and I’m still confused as to what the actual message was. But I did like Rory’s bit and I thought it was sweet and not over-done.

kell887:

izzieweasley:

I haven’t seen any pictures of this moment on my dash yet and it made me kind of sad. I thought it was a beautiful moment. I feel like everyone always forgets what Christmas is REALLY REALLY REALLY about. Lately on TV, when people talk about what Christmas is all about, they say its about giving, and yes, we should focus on giving, but I hope I never forget WHY we are giving. I give because it is what He would want me to do and in remembrance of all he gave for me. He gave His life so that I could repent and have my sins washed away so that one day I could return to Him and my Heavenly Father. I love that Rory read the Christmas story out of the Bible. Jesus is the reason we have Christmas and that is something that is far too easily forgotten.

I was happy to see that they read it too but even more glad that they didn’t, I didn’t notice anyway, try and shove Jesus down their viewers throats. It was tastefully done and I rather enjoyed it. 

I agree with Kelley that it was rather tastefully done…but I don’t think the episode as a whole was. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the 1960s talk to the tv thing, but overall it seemed to ignore who the characters were on a normal basis. Like, Rachel is high-maintenance, but to the point where she’s begging for super expensive gifts from her unemployed boyfriend? And then that she, a Jew, was moved by Rory’s Christmas story to sell her earrings and give to Salvation Army? Actually, Salvation Army bugged me more than anything because Glee is a very LGBT-positive show (or tries to be) and Salvation Army is anything but. So, idk, I have mixed feelings about the episode and I’m still confused as to what the actual message was.

But I did like Rory’s bit and I thought it was sweet and not over-done.

glee Rory Flanagan Rory Leprechaun lgbt Christianity christmas mixed feelings 

October202011

I get sad at all the wrong things.

[spoilers for The Help ahead. Not actually the point of the post.]

So, I read The Help recently and everyone told me it was a very emotional book, but, being me, I found very little to actually elicit any kind of (physical) emotional response from me. Except for two parts. The first being Abeline’s “worst day ever” with the dad trying to beat the gay out of his son (damn near broke my heart), the second being the relationship between the Footes.

I didn’t get upset by the fact that they couldn’t have children. I was moved by how much they love each other. Celia and Johnny both did really stupid things because they were afraid the other would leave them. This wasn’t because they thought their relationship was in trouble enough that someone would inevitably leave, but because they loved each other so much that they couldn’t imagine living without the other, so they spent the year afraid it would happen. 

[end spoilers]

And I think now that I’ve found the ability to care again, I’m doing it all wrong. I’m supposed to be saddened by the deaths and the break-ups and the disasters in books and television, right? But I’m overcome by the strong love, the stable relationships. My heart breaks for Johnny and Celia, because they have a love I want, a love I think I’ll never have.

And by the way, this is why the marriage scene in Up, is so goddamn hard to watch. It’s not Ellie’s death that makes it sad: it’s the love and life we see before it. If all we saw was a casket, we would still understand that, yes, Carl just lost his wife and maybe that’s made him a little cranky, but we wouldn’t feel the deep pain and loss without all the scenes before it. If you’re anything like me, you fell in love with Ellie alongside Carl, and you mourned her passing, not just because she died, but because you feel the void of her leaving, because you knew her presence, and because you understand how hard it must be for Carl to lose his best friend.

I think love can be sadder than loss.

I no longer remember my point exactly please accept these ramblings until then love loss The Help books Up movies Disney 

October52011
I have so many things in drafts waiting to be written, but augh I need to write about this first.  SPOILERS. I am so legitimately disappointed in Jimmy right now. Since the beginning of the show, I have wanted Jimmy and Sabrina together (but not too soon, because that would ruin the appeal of a will-they-won’t-they situation) and I feel like we’ve been getting closer to that lately, but this will ultimately ruin things, not just for their chances at romance, but for their friendship. Jimmy may not like Wyatt and he may not think Wyatt and Sabrina should be together, but that does not give him the right to read her messages and delete them behind her back. That is a serious violation of Sabrina’s trust and it is going to come back to bite him later. But it really bothers me because up to this point—this season especially—we’ve been shown how great of a guy Jimmy can be and how he treats Sabrina so much better than her boyfriend, Wyatt, does. In the last episode, he helped Sabrina overcome her insecurities (her wealth, her old friends, her height, etc.) just by being honest with her and by helping her see the world in a new way. And that was a serious point for Jimmy. He proved he was a great guy—a better guy than Wyatt—and then he does this? That just proves that maybe he’s not. Maybe he’s just as bad. Maybe neither of them deserve her. Or maybe Wyatt deserves her more. I’m probably making a mountain out of a molehill, but I really do love Jimmy Chance, and I really was disappointed in him at the end of tonight’s episode.

I have so many things in drafts waiting to be written, but augh I need to write about this first. 

SPOILERS.

I am so legitimately disappointed in Jimmy right now. Since the beginning of the show, I have wanted Jimmy and Sabrina together (but not too soon, because that would ruin the appeal of a will-they-won’t-they situation) and I feel like we’ve been getting closer to that lately, but this will ultimately ruin things, not just for their chances at romance, but for their friendship.

Jimmy may not like Wyatt and he may not think Wyatt and Sabrina should be together, but that does not give him the right to read her messages and delete them behind her back. That is a serious violation of Sabrina’s trust and it is going to come back to bite him later.

But it really bothers me because up to this point—this season especially—we’ve been shown how great of a guy Jimmy can be and how he treats Sabrina so much better than her boyfriend, Wyatt, does. In the last episode, he helped Sabrina overcome her insecurities (her wealth, her old friends, her height, etc.) just by being honest with her and by helping her see the world in a new way. And that was a serious point for Jimmy. He proved he was a great guy—a better guy than Wyatt—and then he does this? That just proves that maybe he’s not. Maybe he’s just as bad. Maybe neither of them deserve her. Or maybe Wyatt deserves her more.

I’m probably making a mountain out of a molehill, but I really do love Jimmy Chance, and I really was disappointed in him at the end of tonight’s episode.

Raising Hope Jimmy Chance Sabrina Jimmy x Sabrina 

September272011

VICTORIA: She is so much bigger in your world than you realize and this thing that you’re all doing— you and Barney and Robin— where the three of you hang out at the bar, night in, night out, like you’re all just buddies, that doesn’t work. Trust me. You’ve got it all wrong. I’m right about this.

And sure enough, she was right. It didn’t work. We just didn’t realize it yet.

I find the fandom’s reactions to this moment somewhat hilarious because they are so divided. We are all defensive of and biased towards our ships. And I am no exception.

What fandom thinks this means: Ted and Robin should be back together.

What I think this means: Barney and Robin should be back together.

Why I think this: First, I don’t think Ted and Robin will ever be endgame, nor do I think they should be. They tried it, it didn’t work out. And when talking to his kids, Ted always refers to her as Aunt Robin. That would be kind of weird were she the mother. 

Now, here Victoria says it doesn’t work that the three of them hang out together. And I agree. But that’s not because Ted should be dating Robin, it’s because Barney should be dating Robin. This eliminates the weird ex vibe between all of them and furthermore, we know Ted meets his future wife at a wedding, when he chases after a yellow umbrella*. We now know that wedding is almost certainly Barney’s. Now, if Barney and Robin get back together, that might lead to the wedding where Ted chases after that umbrella. And, as Victoria says, it never worked with all those other women the past six years because of Robin and because of the weird platonic threesome thing—but that will no longer be an issue with Barney and Robin married.

I think the writers want us to believe Ted/Robin can be a thing…to throw us off the trail of Barney/Robin and just generally make us squirm and yell at our television sets and keep watching each week. But at the same time, they are dropping all these little clues that will make perfect sense in hindsight.

Plus, and this is the biggest thing for me against the Ted/Robin fans: does no one care about Robin’s feelings towards Barney? Why is this only about what Ted wants?

Also, I just really liked the way the story was told in this last episode. It was fun to jump back and forth like that.

*we also know the wife is the roommate of one of Ted’s old students and a lot of other things that would contradict this.

(Source: lexiecarolinegrey)

How I Met Your Mother HIMYM Barney x Robin Ted x Robin Robin Scherbatsky Ted Mosby Barney Stinson 

September262011

tumblrbot asked: WHERE WOULD YOU MOST LIKE TO VISIT ON YOUR PLANET?

Thank you for asking, tumblrbot.

I’ve been thinking about this since you asked last night. I couldn’t figure out my answer at the time. Immediately, I thought of people rather than places. I would like to visit Mike and Casye and Korianne. But I tried to separate people from places and it became a little harder. A few months ago, had you asked, I would have immediately answered Venice or London or somewhere far away. I’d still like to go to those places.

But where would I most like to visit? That’s a little harder. I guess at this moment, I’d have to say New York City. I’ve never been and I’d like to see it someday. I want to see Anything Goes on Broadway (currently playing!). There are a lot of things I’d like to see while there.

And I could very easily convince Casye to come with me, I’m sure. And if we could run into Mike and Gaby and Kate while out there, even better.

12AM
I know a lot of people are upset over the Ben/Leslie breakup, but honestly, I think it is the best thing the show could have done. And this is why. 1. It is true to the characters. Leslie Knope is an incredibly rule-oriented person who believes in doing things to the letter of the law. Normally, when Leslie does something even remotely against the rules (even if others don’t seem to think so), she will be the first to admit it and will often punish herself more harshly than others. And Ben is similar, though not to such an extreme. These are not two people who could sneak around forever (largely because they are so bad at it), but they tried, because they are also very passionate people who care very much for each other and won’t let the rules get in the way of love. But they both knew they were putting a lot at risk by seeing each other and that sooner or later, it would have to end. And being rational people (for the most part), they were able to break up mutually with no hurt feelings what-so-ever. Ben even supports Leslie and doesn’t resent her for choosing to advance her career. 2. It is the best for their relationship. Firstly, their relationship will be stronger and easier if they don’t have to spend all of their time hiding and lying to those around them. Secondly, as Ben mentioned, it is important that Leslie get this job on her own merits (of which she has in abundance) and not make it seem to the public that she slept her way to the top. She needs to be free of all scandal. And when she gets that position on the city council (which she likely will), Ben will no longer be her boss and they will no longer be working in the same office, which means the no-dating rule won’t apply. They will be able to have a mutually supportive relationship in the open, without any fear of scandal and without any high risks. And, Ben being so supportive of Leslie on her way to this new position can only strengthen their relationship. I think it speaks volumes about Ben and his affections for Leslie that he wants her to achieve her dreams, even if it means he can’t be with her, at least for a while. 3. It is a great move by the show. Parks has always showcased strong women and presented them as realistic role models. These women did not sleep their way into power, they will not be held back, and they’re not sex objects either. I think this breakup was a great move by the Parks writers to present that sort of ideal in Leslie Knope again. She is making a campaign for a higher position which will require a lot of hard work and support from the community. It requires her to be both powerful and well-liked, something we already know Leslie to be. But I think it says far more that the episode was about Leslie freaking out over breaking up with Ben, rather than Ben presenting her with an ultimatum: him or her career. A lot of shows would immediately jump to that. She can’t have both, obviously (at least, not now—see above), but what show better than Parks to show that it doesn’t have to be a contest? What show other than parks would choose career, without turning the woman into a heartless bitch or a brokenhearted wimp? What other show would say that she doesn’t need a man to make her own way, but she also not leave him on the wayside or fight against him to get what she wants? What other show would not only skip all these tropes and present us with a man like Ben who is not only not angry about her choice, but so deeply supportive of her campaign? Ben is the first to support Leslie and he will stay by her the whole time, and he will be the first to congratulate her. And I think we could use more relationships like that on television.

I know a lot of people are upset over the Ben/Leslie breakup, but honestly, I think it is the best thing the show could have done. And this is why.

1. It is true to the characters. Leslie Knope is an incredibly rule-oriented person who believes in doing things to the letter of the law. Normally, when Leslie does something even remotely against the rules (even if others don’t seem to think so), she will be the first to admit it and will often punish herself more harshly than others. And Ben is similar, though not to such an extreme. These are not two people who could sneak around forever (largely because they are so bad at it), but they tried, because they are also very passionate people who care very much for each other and won’t let the rules get in the way of love. But they both knew they were putting a lot at risk by seeing each other and that sooner or later, it would have to end. And being rational people (for the most part), they were able to break up mutually with no hurt feelings what-so-ever. Ben even supports Leslie and doesn’t resent her for choosing to advance her career.

2. It is the best for their relationship. Firstly, their relationship will be stronger and easier if they don’t have to spend all of their time hiding and lying to those around them. Secondly, as Ben mentioned, it is important that Leslie get this job on her own merits (of which she has in abundance) and not make it seem to the public that she slept her way to the top. She needs to be free of all scandal. And when she gets that position on the city council (which she likely will), Ben will no longer be her boss and they will no longer be working in the same office, which means the no-dating rule won’t apply. They will be able to have a mutually supportive relationship in the open, without any fear of scandal and without any high risks. And, Ben being so supportive of Leslie on her way to this new position can only strengthen their relationship. I think it speaks volumes about Ben and his affections for Leslie that he wants her to achieve her dreams, even if it means he can’t be with her, at least for a while.

3. It is a great move by the show. Parks has always showcased strong women and presented them as realistic role models. These women did not sleep their way into power, they will not be held back, and they’re not sex objects either. I think this breakup was a great move by the Parks writers to present that sort of ideal in Leslie Knope again. She is making a campaign for a higher position which will require a lot of hard work and support from the community. It requires her to be both powerful and well-liked, something we already know Leslie to be. But I think it says far more that the episode was about Leslie freaking out over breaking up with Ben, rather than Ben presenting her with an ultimatum: him or her career. A lot of shows would immediately jump to that. She can’t have both, obviously (at least, not now—see above), but what show better than Parks to show that it doesn’t have to be a contest? What show other than parks would choose career, without turning the woman into a heartless bitch or a brokenhearted wimp? What other show would say that she doesn’t need a man to make her own way, but she also not leave him on the wayside or fight against him to get what she wants? What other show would not only skip all these tropes and present us with a man like Ben who is not only not angry about her choice, but so deeply supportive of her campaign? Ben is the first to support Leslie and he will stay by her the whole time, and he will be the first to congratulate her. And I think we could use more relationships like that on television.

(via fuckyeahparksandrec)

I'm Leslie Knope parks and recreation Leslie Knope Ben Wyatt Ben x Leslie 

September252011
all-you-need-tosaveme-call: typeset-opinions: River has had such a terrible life. She’s kidnapped as a baby, we see her dying (and regenerating!) as a child, she spends the majority of her life in prison (even though she can break out whenever she wants)—but mostly her life is terrible because she hasn’t known her family and when she did, they didn’t know her. When Rory shows up at the prison, she knows exactly who he is, but she doesn’t recognize him. I don’t think she’d met him yet, but here he was—her dad!—coming to get her…and he hasn’t the foggiest who she really is. All her life River has known about Rory, the Last Centurian, her father. All her life she’s been told that he would go to the end of the universe and stop at nothing to save her. And here he is, right in front of her, on her birthday. For a split second, she’s excited: her dad is here! He came all this way to be with her on her birthday! But he didn’t; he’s not there to celebrate, he’s not even there for her, he’s there for the Doctor. It’s this crushing reminder that no matter how much she learns about her family or how much they will eventually know about her, she’s not a part of their lives and she lives out of order with those closest to her. Every day of her life she knows a little more, but everyone around her knows less: knows less of her. Slowly she watches everyone fall out of love with her, even her own father, even on her birthday. No, she knew him before she even regenerated into River. Sorry to burst your bubble. This was a repost from A Good Man Goes to War from my original blog. At this point, we didn’t know that she had grown up alongside Rory and Amy as Amy’s best friend. This doesn’t change much about the moment, though, where she’s standing in front of her father and he has no idea who she really is. He doesn’t know that she’s his daughter Melody and that she’s his childhood friend Mels. He knows her as the possibly homicidal friend of his friend, the woman who refuses to help him take on the universe and start a war and retrieve his daughter. She has known him her whole life and she knows he is her father and her friend…and he has no idea who she is in this moment. That fact has not changed, nor will it. And I find that heartbreaking. [I’ve gone back and added a note to the original post about this being only updated to AGMGW]

all-you-need-tosaveme-call:

typeset-opinions:

River has had such a terrible life. She’s kidnapped as a baby, we see her dying (and regenerating!) as a child, she spends the majority of her life in prison (even though she can break out whenever she wants)—but mostly her life is terrible because she hasn’t known her family and when she did, they didn’t know her. 

When Rory shows up at the prison, she knows exactly who he is, but she doesn’t recognize him. I don’t think she’d met him yet, but here he was—her dad!—coming to get her…and he hasn’t the foggiest who she really is. All her life River has known about Rory, the Last Centurian, her father. All her life she’s been told that he would go to the end of the universe and stop at nothing to save her. And here he is, right in front of her, on her birthday. 

For a split second, she’s excited: her dad is here! He came all this way to be with her on her birthday! But he didn’t; he’s not there to celebrate, he’s not even there for her, he’s there for the Doctor. It’s this crushing reminder that no matter how much she learns about her family or how much they will eventually know about her, she’s not a part of their lives and she lives out of order with those closest to her. Every day of her life she knows a little more, but everyone around her knows less: knows less of her. Slowly she watches everyone fall out of love with her, even her own father, even on her birthday.

No, she knew him before she even regenerated into River. Sorry to burst your bubble.

This was a repost from A Good Man Goes to War from my original blog. At this point, we didn’t know that she had grown up alongside Rory and Amy as Amy’s best friend. This doesn’t change much about the moment, though, where she’s standing in front of her father and he has no idea who she really is. He doesn’t know that she’s his daughter Melody and that she’s his childhood friend Mels. He knows her as the possibly homicidal friend of his friend, the woman who refuses to help him take on the universe and start a war and retrieve his daughter.

She has known him her whole life and she knows he is her father and her friend…and he has no idea who she is in this moment. That fact has not changed, nor will it. And I find that heartbreaking.

[I’ve gone back and added a note to the original post about this being only updated to AGMGW]

(via deny-me-and-be-doomed)

Doctor Who River Song The Ponds Rory Williams Melody Pond A Good Man Goes to War repost 

12AM
River has had such a terrible life. She’s kidnapped as a baby, we see her dying (and regenerating!) as a child, she spends the majority of her life in prison (even though she can break out whenever she wants)—but mostly her life is terrible because she hasn’t known her family and when she did, they didn’t know her. When Rory shows up at the prison, she knows exactly who he is, but she doesn’t recognize him. I don’t think she’d met him yet, but here he was—her dad!—coming to get her…and he hasn’t the foggiest who she really is. All her life River has known about Rory, the Last Centurian, her father. All her life she’s been told that he would go to the end of the universe and stop at nothing to save her. And here he is, right in front of her, on her birthday. For a split second, she’s excited: her dad is here! He came all this way to be with her on her birthday! But he didn’t; he’s not there to celebrate, he’s not even there for her, he’s there for the Doctor. It’s this crushing reminder that no matter how much she learns about her family or how much they will eventually know about her, she’s not a part of their lives and she lives out of order with those closest to her. Every day of her life she knows a little more, but everyone around her knows less: knows less of her. Slowly she watches everyone fall out of love with her, even her own father, even on her birthday. [note: This is a repost from after A Good Man Goes to War. I have not updated it yet, but I surely will as the last few episodes have only added to the list of things that make River’s life hard.]

River has had such a terrible life. She’s kidnapped as a baby, we see her dying (and regenerating!) as a child, she spends the majority of her life in prison (even though she can break out whenever she wants)—but mostly her life is terrible because she hasn’t known her family and when she did, they didn’t know her. 

When Rory shows up at the prison, she knows exactly who he is, but she doesn’t recognize him. I don’t think she’d met him yet, but here he was—her dad!—coming to get her…and he hasn’t the foggiest who she really is. All her life River has known about Rory, the Last Centurian, her father. All her life she’s been told that he would go to the end of the universe and stop at nothing to save her. And here he is, right in front of her, on her birthday. 

For a split second, she’s excited: her dad is here! He came all this way to be with her on her birthday! But he didn’t; he’s not there to celebrate, he’s not even there for her, he’s there for the Doctor. It’s this crushing reminder that no matter how much she learns about her family or how much they will eventually know about her, she’s not a part of their lives and she lives out of order with those closest to her. Every day of her life she knows a little more, but everyone around her knows less: knows less of her. Slowly she watches everyone fall out of love with her, even her own father, even on her birthday.

[note: This is a repost from after A Good Man Goes to War. I have not updated it yet, but I surely will as the last few episodes have only added to the list of things that make River’s life hard.]

Doctor Who River Song The Ponds Rory Williams Melody Pond A Good Man Goes to War repost 

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